hahahhah I think novelist in century 20th had ruin marriage view of many people during that period with their words ' if you love some body let him/her go then when he/she return to you she/he is your soulmate ..' and this wrong words also had inspired many romantic/drama film .
Why do I said so ?
If you let some body you love to go then she/he will think that you don't really love him and more over man has different brain with woman , man brain prefer to think logic so they can only love what they can see and touch .
Woman brain tend to use emotion so woman like to hear so even to hear their beloved voice who live  afar woman can feel satisfied , that is why woman can wait for long time if their beloved one must work in far distance but not man .
What so funny to think even live together man can do adultery when separated more .
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If you like to read romantic novel is good but can not be as a mirror for  facing  love life .
Why..? Because every person has their own love story , has their own trouble and way of making up , no couple has the same love story .
Well..the best way to find how is to reach true love is to interview the source who have succeeded in , priest say :'ask them who already succeeded with their love story'  :   the old couple who keep their realtionship till one of them die or lasting till old .
And ..what is their answer from the old couple or the old couple who one of them had died in old age   ?

I have ask many old couples from almost many countries I met in hotel , most of them has the same answer : 'we ourself who make our soulmate , God only bless us then if you want him/her to be your soulmate keep him/her in your goal and find at least 3 of his/her kindness in keep in your mind and never argue till afternoon before the sun set you both must be friend again ' .

Then why must keep one marriage /relationship ? Because 1 relationship/marriage is simplify life , simplify problem , simplify budget , simplify thought that is why they are happier than person who has marriage more than once or has many girl/boy friends .
For example how to simplify life is : if you have 1 boy/girl friend so only 1person who bother your time ( who send you sms , send you email , who ask you to travel with , to go out with , who share their story with ) .
If you have 2 girls/boys friend so 2 persons who bother you with must answer sms , email , must go out with , must travel with , ust hear their story , must sleep with ...
If you have 1 wife/husband ..only 1 person who will take your time with their story .
If you have 2 marriage in life so 2 person will take your time to hear their story , if the story is nice then good if bad news..? then it will be shocking you 2 times ? Hahhahh..then easy for you to get heart attacked because must share time with and run time with...

If you have no girl/boy friend , no one help you when you were falling ( sad or bad /haunted by evil to do bad thing ) the most important is no one bring you to heaven ( feeling true love ,  enjoy sex without feeling worry of get infected by genital diseases ) and the most important you can not reproduce with love ( if you are lucky.....
Yes..out side many kids who need parents to adopt them but you don't know where they coming from ? From incest , raping , etc how lucky they are who can have kid from relationship in love and mariage ..

So, do you still searching for your soulmate ?
Ask to God .
God knows our life , death , fate ( soulmate ) , subsistence , we just need to talk to God   .

I hope you like to read about this real story :

Meet Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher of North Carolina. They have been married 85 years (86 in May) and hold the Guinness World Record for the longest marriage of a living couple and get this…. Zelmyra is 101 years old and Herbert is 104.

The happily married couple teamed up with twitter this Valentine’s Day to answer some relationship questions. Check out their take on finding love, getting through hard times and more. Good read.

1. What made you realize that you could spend the rest of your lives together? Were you scared at all?

H & Z: With each day that passed, our relationship was more solid and secure.Divorce was NEVER an option – or even a thought.

2. How did you know your spouse was the right one for you?

We grew up together & were best friends before we married. A friend is for life – our marriage has lasted a lifetime

3. Is there anything you would do differently after more than 80 years of marriage?

We wouldn’t change a thing. There’s no secret to our marriage, we just did what was needed for each other & our family.

4. What is your advice to someone who is trying to keep the faith that Mr. Right is really out there?

Zelmyra: Mine was just around the corner! He is never too far away, so keep the faith – when you meet him, you’ll know.

5. What was the best piece of marriage advice you ever received?

Respect, support & communicate with each other.Be faithful, honest & true.Love each other with ALL of your heart

6. What are the most important attributes of a good spouse?

Zelmyra: A hard worker & good provider.The 1920s were hard,but Herbert wanted & provided the best for us.I married a good man!

7. What is your best Valentine’s Day memory?

Zelmyra: I cook dinner EVERY day.Herbert left work early & surprised me – he cooked dinner for me! He is a VERY good cook!

Herbert: I said that I was going to cook dinner for her & she could relax – the look on her face & clean plate made my day!

8. You got married very young – how did u both manage to grow as individuals yet not grow apart as a couple?

“Everyone who plants a seed & harvests the crop celebrates together” We are individuals, but accomplish more together.

9. What is your fondest memory of your 85-year marriage?

Our legacy: 5 children, 10 grandchildren, 9 great-grandchildren, and 1 great-great grandchild.

10. Does communicating get easier with time? How do you keep your patience?

The children are grown, so we talk more now. We can enjoy our time on the porch or our rocking chairs – together.

11. How did you cope when you had to be physically separated for long periods of time?

Herbert: We were apart for 2 months when Z was hospitalized with our 5th child. It was the most difficult time of my life. Zelmyra’s mother helped me with the house and the other children, otherwise I would have lost my mind.

12. At the end of bad relationship day, what is the most important thing to remind yourselves?

Remember marriage is not a contest – never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win

13. Is fighting important?

NEVER physically! Agree that it’s okay to disagree, & fight for what really matters. Learn to bend – not break!

14. What’s the one thing you have in common that transcends everything else?

We are both Christians & believe in God.Marriage is a commitment to the Lord.We pray with & for each other every day.

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